Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Monday, April 19, 2010
The Princess and the Frog -- Loved IT!!
We watched Disney's new movie, The Princess and the Frog a few weeks ago. I absolutely loved the message. The whole movie was very well done all the way. It is set in New Orleans in the 50s and is about a girl who has a dream of owning and operating the restaurant her father never got to open even though he worked so hard. They are a black family and the contrast between them and her rich white friend is nicely done without condemning or unnecessarily glorifying either race. There is some voodoo in the movie, that's how she turns into a frog along with the prince who she falls in love with, but even that is shown as truly evil. Anyway, the princess has devoted her life to working in order to buy the restaurant despite all the nay sayers and friends and even her mother who hopes for grandchildren. She gets turned into a frog after kissing a frog prince who was turned into a frog by voodoo and they start on a quest to turn human again. The prince has played his whole life and never really had to work, but has been disinherited. He learns that he can work and learn new skills and he loves the princess, but she has a much harder time slowing down and discovering what is truly important -- namely relationships and the most important relationship of husband and wife. She is forced to choose between gaining her dream and losing her lover- the frog prince, and realizes that love is more important than working forever on a dream no matter how worthy it may be. Of course in the end she gets it all-- her frog prince, they turn human again, and the restaurant. It is a great message of love. The side love story of Raymond and Evangeline is also sweet and a great complement to the story. This movie is a masterpiece. It is so nice to have something modern to assist in the teaching of my children rather than working against it constantly. If I had the ability to create a story with a good message, this is the message I would create. Thank you Disney!!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
My Life Progression -- Marriage, Homemaking, Health
Life has been very interesting to me. Some things in my life have turned out way better than I could have ever imagined and some things have not turned out how I thought they would at all. I turned 34 years old last Monday, so I'll try not to make this a memoir since I hope I won't be dying anytime soon. But I do want to recognize how far I've come in my life and how grateful I am for progression and learning and improvement, and especially for the love and mercy of God in being patient with me and blessing me tremendously and many times through other people.
Marriage
My most treasured blessing is my darling family, my husband and children. I had some attitudes as a teenager that could have easily interfered this blessing that I now treasure and enjoy so much. There was a lot I had to overcome personally in order to be ready to receive this blessing. Getting married was probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I had zero desire to marry after watching the sad problems of my parents who divorced a year after I married. But I will be eternally grateful to my Father in Heaven for guiding me and placing me with people and in situations that would help me change my attitude and perspective on marriage. The bottom line when I met my husband though, was that there was no other way to be with him than to marry him, so although I didn't like the idea of being married, I really liked the idea of being with him now and forever. This blessing is the one that has turned out to be way better than anything I could have imagined on my own. I thank the Lord everyday, because I know how close I was to missing it. And I know how sad and lonely it is to not have confidence in your family. I will post more on this subject in the future for the few out there who may be a little like I was. Getting married to the right person at the right time in the right place is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo worth it!!
Homemaking
The reason I originally started writing this post was for the cleaning part, but I had to put that plug in for marriage first -- so anyway--- .. My life has been a huge progression. I have learned a ton every year. Most recently, I have rediscovered FLYLADY. She has taught me how to get control of my house and my life and be able to accomplish all my lofty goals.
I started in January after my homeschooling sister-in-law raved over what a difference it was making for them. I had read the FLYLADY stuff before, but didn't follow it to the letter, just took the things I thought applied to me and left the rest like dress to your shoes every morning. Now though, I was desperate and in serious need of some help if I was going to be able to eat healthy, grow a garden, homeschool 5 kids and clean the house. I had pretty much given up the idea of ever having a clean house, but I decided to follow everything she said to the letter, and she was right--- I CAN do it!!! She is so encouraging too which was so helpful to me so that I wouldn't give up when I couldn't do everything. It took me a while to get the daily routines down, but over time I got them and was then able to add more. One little Babystep at a time as she calls it. My house looks and feels so much better. It's amazing what getting ready in the morning will do for a person. It's amazing how much better the kitchen looks when I close all the cupboards and take 2 minutes to clear out the hotspots around the house. I feel so much better. I can do a lot of things, but I was definitely failing in this area. I grew up with a maid and I get sidetracked very easily and I was not born organized. It has never seemed appealing to me. But I am overcoming, thanks to Fly Lady and her clear explanations and lists of what to do. To a person who this does not come naturally to, lists are very important even including things like fix your hair, put on your make-up, figure out what you are going to make for dinner, etc. I have a ways to go, but I think I am on the right track. I just love it. Thank you Fly Lady.
Progression
Speaking of tracks, I think that is the important part of life. It's not where you are that is important so much as which direction you are headed. For example, someone could know and be doing a lot more than I am at this time, but if they are letting things slip or not improving and moving forward, then they are not headed in the right direction and eventually things will start to fall apart. My house may not look ordered and cared for, but if I am on the right track and improving each day, then eventually things will all come together and stay that way as I continue to improve and move forward. Maybe that's a little of what we're witnessing in our country today. We have been the greatest country, but we have not been on the right track that made us great, and now we are finally reaping the consequence of not being on the right track. I hope that makes sense, just let me know if you are totally confused.
Health
Lastly I wanted to talk about cleansing the body. For me, changing my diet has been life-saving. Basically what I do is focus on eating lots of dark green leafy salads, at least 2 a day and a green smoothie in the morning especially for the kids, and cutting out most dairy, meat and chemical laden products. I pretty much have to make everything, but it is easy now and we enjoy our meals. I could tell that my body was run down and not functioning properly. So this has been the other blessing I am truly thankful for. My body is not perfect still, but I am so much better off than I was. And I am on the right track. It was an extremely difficult transition and especially hard on extended family who show their love by sharing their food. Unfortunately it was that kind of food that was preventing me from accomplishing my goals and desires because of the undercover damage it caused. I've gone pretty slow, and I had to remember that although I wasn't perfect, I was a lot better than I had been the month before, and I was on the right track. So although it was a tough transition, now that I am benefiting so much from the results, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I'll post more on that also sometime. I have a couple recipes on www.greattimetolive.com which I'll try to update and organize a little better. this also deserves a much longer explanation and post, but that will be for another day.
Thank you to all the all the people who have helped me so much in so many areas. I hope I can reciprocate by sharing and helping others.
DAG!!! (That means hello, good-bye, greetings, in Dutch)
Marriage
My most treasured blessing is my darling family, my husband and children. I had some attitudes as a teenager that could have easily interfered this blessing that I now treasure and enjoy so much. There was a lot I had to overcome personally in order to be ready to receive this blessing. Getting married was probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I had zero desire to marry after watching the sad problems of my parents who divorced a year after I married. But I will be eternally grateful to my Father in Heaven for guiding me and placing me with people and in situations that would help me change my attitude and perspective on marriage. The bottom line when I met my husband though, was that there was no other way to be with him than to marry him, so although I didn't like the idea of being married, I really liked the idea of being with him now and forever. This blessing is the one that has turned out to be way better than anything I could have imagined on my own. I thank the Lord everyday, because I know how close I was to missing it. And I know how sad and lonely it is to not have confidence in your family. I will post more on this subject in the future for the few out there who may be a little like I was. Getting married to the right person at the right time in the right place is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo worth it!!
Homemaking
The reason I originally started writing this post was for the cleaning part, but I had to put that plug in for marriage first -- so anyway--- .. My life has been a huge progression. I have learned a ton every year. Most recently, I have rediscovered FLYLADY. She has taught me how to get control of my house and my life and be able to accomplish all my lofty goals.
I started in January after my homeschooling sister-in-law raved over what a difference it was making for them. I had read the FLYLADY stuff before, but didn't follow it to the letter, just took the things I thought applied to me and left the rest like dress to your shoes every morning. Now though, I was desperate and in serious need of some help if I was going to be able to eat healthy, grow a garden, homeschool 5 kids and clean the house. I had pretty much given up the idea of ever having a clean house, but I decided to follow everything she said to the letter, and she was right--- I CAN do it!!! She is so encouraging too which was so helpful to me so that I wouldn't give up when I couldn't do everything. It took me a while to get the daily routines down, but over time I got them and was then able to add more. One little Babystep at a time as she calls it. My house looks and feels so much better. It's amazing what getting ready in the morning will do for a person. It's amazing how much better the kitchen looks when I close all the cupboards and take 2 minutes to clear out the hotspots around the house. I feel so much better. I can do a lot of things, but I was definitely failing in this area. I grew up with a maid and I get sidetracked very easily and I was not born organized. It has never seemed appealing to me. But I am overcoming, thanks to Fly Lady and her clear explanations and lists of what to do. To a person who this does not come naturally to, lists are very important even including things like fix your hair, put on your make-up, figure out what you are going to make for dinner, etc. I have a ways to go, but I think I am on the right track. I just love it. Thank you Fly Lady.
Progression
Speaking of tracks, I think that is the important part of life. It's not where you are that is important so much as which direction you are headed. For example, someone could know and be doing a lot more than I am at this time, but if they are letting things slip or not improving and moving forward, then they are not headed in the right direction and eventually things will start to fall apart. My house may not look ordered and cared for, but if I am on the right track and improving each day, then eventually things will all come together and stay that way as I continue to improve and move forward. Maybe that's a little of what we're witnessing in our country today. We have been the greatest country, but we have not been on the right track that made us great, and now we are finally reaping the consequence of not being on the right track. I hope that makes sense, just let me know if you are totally confused.
Health
Lastly I wanted to talk about cleansing the body. For me, changing my diet has been life-saving. Basically what I do is focus on eating lots of dark green leafy salads, at least 2 a day and a green smoothie in the morning especially for the kids, and cutting out most dairy, meat and chemical laden products. I pretty much have to make everything, but it is easy now and we enjoy our meals. I could tell that my body was run down and not functioning properly. So this has been the other blessing I am truly thankful for. My body is not perfect still, but I am so much better off than I was. And I am on the right track. It was an extremely difficult transition and especially hard on extended family who show their love by sharing their food. Unfortunately it was that kind of food that was preventing me from accomplishing my goals and desires because of the undercover damage it caused. I've gone pretty slow, and I had to remember that although I wasn't perfect, I was a lot better than I had been the month before, and I was on the right track. So although it was a tough transition, now that I am benefiting so much from the results, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I'll post more on that also sometime. I have a couple recipes on www.greattimetolive.com which I'll try to update and organize a little better. this also deserves a much longer explanation and post, but that will be for another day.
Thank you to all the all the people who have helped me so much in so many areas. I hope I can reciprocate by sharing and helping others.
DAG!!! (That means hello, good-bye, greetings, in Dutch)
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
How to get your husband to do anything!!
My husband has been telling me for years that men are simple creatures. All they need is good loving and good food in that order. They will almost always take loving over food. And if you give good loving you can often get out of making good food and sometimes even cleaning stuff.
Anyway, if you want him to do something, just ask him directly -- will you take out the garbage? will you change the light bulb in the bathroom? Will you bring up that heavy bucket of wheat from the fruit room?
You only ask him only once and don't expect him to do it right away. Never bring it up again. (But if he sees you struggle with the trash, it's O.K. to look a little pathetic because men like to rescue their woman and he will probably take the trash from you and do it for you). Never expect him to take a hint like the bathroom light is burned out.... He will only think you find it interesting. You have to ask him directly or he may not realize you want him to do something for you.
Once you ask correctly without repeating which he may consider nagging, he may grumble a little bit, but he will do it. He will grumble less the least amount of times you ask him to do something.
Then the big trick, my husband tells me and it seems to work for him is to reward that good behaviour. When your husband does something for you that you really appreciate or are just glad he did it, then give him a kiss and a hug and say thank you and tell him how big and strong he is and how appreciative you are of his hard work or help. Then he might start looking for projects to do especially if he thinks he might get a reward of ????-you fill in the blank.
Also, another thing to remember is that when he helps, you have to let him help his way. He won't want to do it your way. Remember beggars can't be choosers, and you should be thankful that that was one less dish you had to rinse even if the counters and pots are left untouched. But if it is really important to you, then refer back to the previous paragraphs and reward that good behaviour, maybe he'll even mop the kitchen floor if there's a great reward of loving and appreciation waiting for him. Husbands like to make their wives happy and they like to rescue them.
I think husbands really are simple creatures!!
Anyway, if you want him to do something, just ask him directly -- will you take out the garbage? will you change the light bulb in the bathroom? Will you bring up that heavy bucket of wheat from the fruit room?
You only ask him only once and don't expect him to do it right away. Never bring it up again. (But if he sees you struggle with the trash, it's O.K. to look a little pathetic because men like to rescue their woman and he will probably take the trash from you and do it for you). Never expect him to take a hint like the bathroom light is burned out.... He will only think you find it interesting. You have to ask him directly or he may not realize you want him to do something for you.
Once you ask correctly without repeating which he may consider nagging, he may grumble a little bit, but he will do it. He will grumble less the least amount of times you ask him to do something.
Then the big trick, my husband tells me and it seems to work for him is to reward that good behaviour. When your husband does something for you that you really appreciate or are just glad he did it, then give him a kiss and a hug and say thank you and tell him how big and strong he is and how appreciative you are of his hard work or help. Then he might start looking for projects to do especially if he thinks he might get a reward of ????-you fill in the blank.
Also, another thing to remember is that when he helps, you have to let him help his way. He won't want to do it your way. Remember beggars can't be choosers, and you should be thankful that that was one less dish you had to rinse even if the counters and pots are left untouched. But if it is really important to you, then refer back to the previous paragraphs and reward that good behaviour, maybe he'll even mop the kitchen floor if there's a great reward of loving and appreciation waiting for him. Husbands like to make their wives happy and they like to rescue them.
I think husbands really are simple creatures!!
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