Update

Exciting news-- baby #8 is a boy!! That gives us 6 boys in a row!! I think they will have a ball growing up together. I'm glad I had my sweet girls first and together. I'm glad they have each other. Our new house is coming along. It has been mostly framed so the next thing will be the roof, windows and doors, then they'll start on the plumbing and electrical. It is turning out even better than I anticipated. We have a great view of the lake and the mountains. It is so pretty, expecially now with the snow covered mountains reflecting in the lake. We just can't wait to be down there. I like the way the entryway is turning out- i was a little worried it would be boxy but it's plenty big and nice and open. I also really like the size of windows, and my laundry room will be plenty big. We also have a nice big yard that I am having fun designing it for the future. Just 8 weeks left to go. We are really getting tired of being in the car so much. We can't wait for my husband to have a shorter and safer commute as well.

I'm feeling better with this pregnancy. I'm feeling big, but I have my energy mostly back and I've started exercising again which feels so good and helps me feel like my own person. I'm sure I'm big too because I got so stretched out with the twins last time and this is my 7th full term pregnancy after all. But just having one baby this time doesn't seem like such a big deal after those twins. Plus he'll be born in the summer instead of the winter or fall so that will be nice and we'll be in a house that works better for the number of people we have living here and we'll be able to park in the garage. I remember the days I used to leave the sleeping the babies in the car in the garage after we'd get home from running errands and such. It will be nice to have that option again. Now if we can just keep going until then!!

I'm working on the regular stuff -- housework, laundry, organizing, cooking-- it is such a big job. I'm learning to delegate better. It is a process though. Life is busy but good. We spent a couple hours at the park today-- it was so nice out!

Pregnancy

I thought I was past morning sickness, but I'm probably not as far along as I thought and although I had a decent week this week and was able to function mostly normally I started getting a headache last night and I've had it off and on all day today, and I haven't done much at all today. It is really frustrating and pregnancy is really really hard. I of course don't remember any of these hard things from previous pregnancies so my husband told me he really wants me write this down so I can remember. I have no memory of my only natural childbirth either. I remember no pain. All I see is my cute almost 2 yr olds and think oh they're so cute and then we decide to have another and boom-- I'm sick for 2 months. It is really crappy. I know it will be more than worth it in the end, but wow, pregnancy is tough. It truly is a sacrifice, very worth it, but very hard.

Baby #8 is already making his/ her mark in the World

I think each child I have had has taught me something. Having so many children has forced me to learn how to clean efficiently and organize my home-- I don't think I ever would have gotten around to it with only 3 children. I'm still not very clean, but I'm much better than I would have been without being responsible for so many. I've also learned to put my children first and read to them at night even though I'm tired, and make sure I am available to help them with whatever school work they need help with, and just take care of them and make sure they are doing what they are supposed to do. It has taken a lot of time and attention to figure out how to get it all to work. I'm far from perfect, but I'm much further along that road because of my children.

Even with 5 kids, I was handling my life fine-- I had time to learn how to play the guitar, time to read and time to learn all sorts of cooking and food prep. Enter the twins-- I went from 5 kids to 7 and it was rough. I am jut 5'2" tall, so the pregnancy was very heavy for me. By the end I could hardly walk and I struggled to finish the dishes by sitting on a stool, I also sat on a stool to cook. The pregnancy was hard from the beginning-- I was twice as sick the first trimester and twice as big the 3rd, the 2nd was O.K. I was too tired to do anything besides take care of my 5 children and my pregnant self. Once the babies were born I literally could do nothing except take care of those babies, pull meals together and read to the kids or help them with their schoolwork while I nursed those twins. There wasn't enough time to clean, our house was really, really messy. The kids would have helped, but it was so out of control that they just couldn't because they wouldn't know where to start. I did have meals brought in at first and my mom helped with laundry, but wow-- the whole year is kind of a blur. I loved those babies and enjoyed them, but there was no time for book clubs or playing the guitar. We barely made it to our homeschool group once a week. School was O.K. because I could do that while I nursed, but that is about all I did. I don't even remember much about Christmas because I think it was still a blur. Once those babies turned 1, my life started to ease up. I was ready to join back into life and social events as I am a very social person.

That was a rude awakening. My 3 best friends had moved during that year and 3 others the year before. The couple of friends who were left who I had done things with when my older kids were young no longer had babies. They were entering the phase of motherhood where the youngest child goes off to school and they suddenly have some newfound freedom and opportunities. I felt like everybody left me behind, and I think they did. It was time for me to grow further and it was time for our family to move to a better environment closer to my husband's work. That didn't turn out to be very easy, and only after it got really hard for not just me, but for the kids, we knew we had to force the move and just do it. We are in the process now- still haven't moved, but we are feeling much better because we are building a great house in a great neighborhood and area for our family. Things I've learned and experience I've gained from these experiences are really due to those twins.

I read that only about 0.5% of women nowadays have 7 children or more. In Utah, there are a good number of families with 4 and 5 kids, 6 is less common but accepted as normal, and very few families have 7 or more children. So I think I was considered "normal" with my 7 because the last 2 were twins and that is "acceptable". Those twins are so cute and so sweet. They are worth every pain I endured. With a promotion at work and a new house being built with plenty of room and a feeling of someone missing, we decided to have another baby. I am no longer considered "normal" even though it is just one more kid than my 7. Some people are having a hard time accepting it. I find myself growing again, going against the culture and defending my freedom of choice and being fine with staying away from negative people and just doing what I think is best regardless of what others say or think.

So far baby #8 has already changed my life forever. I am officially "unusual" now and officially in the BIG family club. I do have a very nice big family group I'm a part of and those ladies are wonderful and very encouraging. I have some good friends with varying sizes of families who are supportive of me and that make me feel good.

I read a quote by Joseph Smith the other day that perfectly describes how I feel about this:

When persons manifest the least kindness and love to me, O what power it has over my mind, while the opposite course has a tendency to harrow up all the harsh feelings and depress the human mind.

( this is from Daughters in My Kingdom page 23)

I had no idea there was even so much to learn and do in this life. Thank you baby #8, I am already a better person because of you. Thank you to my husband for always being there for me-- at least we have each other!! Thank you to all my sweet and good children for putting up with me and loving me despite my weaknesses. Thank you to all the people who have shown love to me even though they may not understand me or even know me or have met me in person. Thank you to anyone who has been kind to me and smiled despite the throng of children usually following me around. Thank you for being nice. Going against the grain is not an easy thing to do-- there are plenty who mock and don't even try to understand. Thank you to you for being a true friend.

p.s., the morning sickness is finally starting to subside, I exercised for the first time today in about 6 weeks-- it felt sooooooo good-- I should be pretty much back to normal in a week or 2 so I'm sure I'll be back on here posting updates-- the past few weeks have been rather boring with me laying down and resting every time the twins go to bed. Fortunately my kids watch so little TV that they actually guiltily like it when I'm sick because then they pretty much get to watch as much TV as they want. My husband was sick last week too so they had a couple days of marathon Curios George shows on Netflix. They're hoping to watch a lot of Kipper too, but I'm starting to feel better and I made them all do aerobics and yoga with me today. They'll thank me later!!

The Difference between a twin pregnancy and a singleton one

This is all based on my recent personal experience. I am now about 6 weeks postpartum.

1st trimester-- I was twice as sick with morning sickness than usual and my tummy started poking out much sooner than any of my previous singleton pregnancies. I was unable to continue eating the nutrient dense salads and raw foods I had gotten used to eating prior to the pregnancy. I figured out that they were just too strong for my tastebuds I needed very plain food or anything I didn't have to make. I had to pretty much quit the raw meals because I couldn't make 2 meals- one for me and one for the family, the one for the family was barely making it. I did try to juice wheatgrass more often and I did keep up on the dark green leafy salads and smoothies, but I couldn't eat my previously favored dressings and I couldn't keep up making sprouted wheat crackers or breads.

2nd trimester- was not too bad. I started feeling more normal and had a couple months of good housecleaning and school teaching. I started to be asked when I was due. I decided to pretend I wasn't as big as I was or I wouldn't have gone anywhere. I was still able to exercise and funciton on a normal level. I was much itchier though and I had a lot more Braxton Hicks contractions than with my others. Not a huge difference so far although certainly different. The worry for the babies and if they are O.K. is twice what it is for a singleton. It seems so many more things can go wrong. The twins would switch positions every time I went in- twin A breech, twin B head down, etc. Worry about a c-section if both twins are not head down at time of delivery. I had an ultrasound every visit to the doc about every 3 weeks.

3rd trimester-- this is where the variance is the greatest. I got to be very slow. It was hard to get around and I was very tired. I had to quit exercising because the wieght of my pulling on my ligaments was just too uncomfortable and I realized that I'd better save my strength for sweeping and mopping the kitchen floor. I had a terrible itchy rash on my ankles, back and arms, just a couple spots on my belly. It was awful. At least it was in the winter and I could wear long sleeves. It cleared up by about 3 weeks postpartum. It was so itchy. about 35 weeks I started to swell really bad especially in my ankles. I think some of that was from being so immobile. We were remodeling our house to make room for everybody and I really didn't want to have the twins come during that awful mess so I stayed down a lot and I really swelled. I was able to cope with the bigness-- and I was humongous-- my belly was anyway- I actually gained the same amount of weight I did with my other babies mostly because of my diet I think-- anyway I could cope with the size and the being tired and itchy, but when my feet started to swell and my hands too, I knew it was going to be time to have the babies soon. About week 30-32 I found that preparing dinner on a tall barstool was very helpful. It was just hard to stand up for any length of time. I pretty much quit doing any kind of deep cleaning. We were in survival mode especially with the remodel. I usually would reach that desparate point of immobility at 37 weeks with a singleton and I would say I was there at 28 weeks, but I had a good attitude and was really looking forward to raising the babies. Fortunately, my husband picked up a lot of the slack. Then when it became almost impossible for me walk because of the pressure on my pelvis,I knew the babies would need to be born soon. My body wouldn't be able to go on much longer and it wasn't going to get any easier. Plus the babies were good sized by 32 weeks they were about 4 lbs. each and I had them at 37 weeks and 2 days and they were 6lbs 10 oz and 6 lb 11 oz which is really good size for twins. I'm only 5'2" though and that was a lot of pressure on my frame.

The Delivery-- My doctor agreed to induce me and the delivery went smoothly although I had to deliver in the operating room and I pretty much had to get an epidural to avoid a c-section. If I had to do that part over I might consider getting a midwife familiar with twins so that I wouldn't have to get the epidural, but I'm thankful I didn't have to get a c-section. So I'm not complaining much, my doctor was competent, and I had to go with what she was comfortable with and knows. I didn't feel a single contraction. Usually I feel them right after the doctor breaks my water, but not this time, maybe because the other bag of water was cushioning it. The epidural worked right away even though I asked for the smallest dose possible just enough to give me some if a c-section was necessary so that they wouldn't have to knock me out, but I didn't feel a thing, not even any pressure, just pins and needles through my legs and feet the entire time. I pushed 3 times to get the first baby out and the second one was born 5 minutes later with one push and the vacuum.

Postpartum-- The afterpains were not too bad with my motherwort tea and the red raspberry leaf tea I had taken throughout the pregnancy. I did take one dose of ibuprofen, but that was it for prescription meds. The feeling in my legs returned about 6 hours after delivery and i felt pretty good. I came home the next day with both babies and I felt like a deflated balloon. I was worried about the muscle separation in my stomach, it felt like there was a herniated muscle in the center. I felt like a bulldozer had just run through my insides and torn up everything. Fortunatly I have a book I had great success using after a diastais (muscle separation with baby #5) called Lose your Mummy Tummy and it has great exercises i write about when I have my waist back. So I started those including Kegels and I don't feel quite so torn up anymore, but I have a ways to go to get my waist back and to get my abdominal muscles back together. It took about 2 1/2 weeks for my swelling to go away. I could fit into my pants a week later, but my belly looked eformed from the diastatis. I was about 5 fingerwidths a week after delivery and am now down to 2 fingerwidths. If I was more consistent at the exercises I'm sure the diastasis would be even less, but slowly but surely I will get those closed up. I feel close to norml with everything else and have started exercising again although getting the twins on a common schedule haas been a challenge and it is harder to do things like that now.

It felt so good to not be pregnant anymore. It feels so good to be able to walk around bend over and clean the house and make dinner easily. I won't feel completely normal until my diastatis closes completely because I just know my core is fragile and I don't want to risk any further damage, but it was worth it!! It was extremely difficult with homeschooling 5 other children, remodeling the house, eating healthy, and running a household, but we made it and the babies are so adorable and wonderful. I would do it all over again although one set of twins is plenty!!