I think we are ready to leave Utah. It is mostly a subject for a different post, but we are tired of dealing with the willful ignorance and non-caring attitude we have encountered in different circles around the state. If it is our lot to deal with it, let's at least do it where it is beautiful and where there are awesome field trips. I may go into depth about our realizations later.
For now here is the conversation I had with the Primary President on Sunday:
I am now officially the sunbeam teacher to 6 kids including one of my own and the wolf cub scout leader. Sunday was my first time to teach the Sunbeams. At the end of church as I was waiting for parents to come for their children, the P.P. came into the room to talk to me.
P.P.: O.K., so I need to talk to you.
me: sure.
P.P.: So, just tell me straight up, what is going on with you- do you really want to be in the nursery, because the nursery leaders are telling me that you told them you would be in there.
me: I am willing to do whatever needs to be done. My twins were not yet 18 months and I had no calling, so I told the nursery leaders that I would just hang out in the nursery with my babies until I got a calling. Now I have a calling, so I will not hang out in the nursery, I will teach my new class. End of story.
P.P.: End of story?
me: end of story.
P.P.: Oh, O.K., that's what I thought- the nursery leaders were just so worried and I saw Ryan leave with the twins, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah-blah.
me: We had a funeral yesterday, the twins were tired, Ryan took them home.
P.P.: alright, I just thought I needed to hear from you what was going on.
me: I guess I can let the nursery leaders know that I have a calling now.
P.P.: Are you O.K. teaching this class- do you need an assistant? The bishop is moving kind of slow in getting you an assistant.
( I told her when she gave me the sunbeam lesson manuel that I did not need an assistant, I have 7 kids including twins-- I can handle 6 Sunbeams as rowdy as they may be, unless there is someone who needs a calling)
me: I do not need an assistant unless someone needs a calling, we were just fine- then I told her some of the things we had done in class to keep children happy, learning and behaved.
P.P.: O.K., I trust you. We won't worry about an assistant then.
Amazing-- The great thing is that I was in a good mood when she came in, I really like being with the little kids. I have no ill feelings toward her so she couldn't get me to react in any kind of a negative way. I can sense her frustration towards me-- she couldn't keep me out of Primary-- I went over her directly to the bishop to get a calling and I'm not inactive so that she and others can say to themselves --" well, if they would just come to church more often....", "they just must not be that righteous...", "that person is just so hard to work with...", etc., etc.
I can't wait to get out of here and deal with a different set of problems!!
3 comments:
If your family was in a smaller area where there was a branch, that conversation would have gone so much differently! LOL. Good luck with your frustrations. I've had many similar situations. Hope it gets better soon!
I hope you stay in Utah. I am sorry that it has been so tough for you in your ward.
Thank Diane, I appreciate that. I think it's pretty set though--if we had family support or a good homeschool group, it would be different, but as it is we can't stay. It is too much for us to deal with alone and we owe it to our kids to give them the best environment possible and it is not good here. But we will be here another year, we will have to make it a good one!!
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